Mommy Bullying

This post is inspired by some really negative posts and articles I have read lately. Its my goal to keep THIS post positive. :)  I like Facebook for a quick way to access friends, family and people in the community, and typically I find it convenient and helpful. But, lately, there have been some mean-spirited posts & articles that have really irked me. I mean, under my skin in a big way!

Now, let me start off by saying that I call myself a stay-at-home mom (SAHM so i don't have to keep writing that out). I also help my husband with his business sometimes, but in large part I do that from home, or am able to take my kids with me when I do help. Im not the type to get my panties in a bunch because someone insults SAHM's,  nor do I agree when SAHM's imply that its really the HARDEST job there is and working moms have it easy. Ive done both, and they are both hard.  I realize some people just don't have the ability to walk in another's shoes, so they truly have no idea what someone else might deal with each day, whether they work, stay at home, or a little of both.

A few days ago I read a post from a woman cutting another SAHM down by saying 'We don't care if you cooked dinner, cleaned your house, worked out, finished the laundry! trust me no one is impressed. Thats your job." This is a pet peeve of mine. If you have to point out someone else's flaws or cut someone else down to make yourself feel better or more important, then you need some self-examination. Take the negative energy you are throwing towards others, and make your own more positive. How about being happy for her?! She must have felt proud of those accomplishments and put them out there for her friends and family to see! Does making fun of her make YOU feel better? If so, that makes me sad. Because it shouldn't. Instead, why not try cheering on your fellow moms. Be on their side, be on their team. I promise, it will make you feel better than trying to shame them. This lady that wrote the post was also blessed enough to stay at home with her kids, and maybe she's a real Martha Stewart, and does those things every day, and good for her! That is SUPER impressive. But ya know what?? Not everyone is. Maybe for her, that was a great deal of hard work and she wanted a little praise.  God knows we have enough people who think we are worthless slobs who snack and watch TV all day. 

Today, I did clean my kitchen for 3 freaking hours, it looks amazing. I baked chocolate chip banana nut muffins, played with my little guy and put away a ton of laundry, now while I get him down for a nap, I am jotting this blog. And I don't mind telling you, I am quite pleased with myself. Yesterday, however, was a different story ... I lounged with Brandtley, read part of a book,  looked at Pinterest for way too long, napped a few minutes on the couch... and I 'cooked' Taco Bell for supper and went to bed with a sink full of dishes. It didn't bother me in the slightest to have little to show for the day. You know why? Because, not all my days are filled with productivity, and not all of them are filled with down-time. Maybe your days are always busy, maybe your sister's or neighbors are mostly lazy... that's just life. We are all the same, yet different all at once.  

If I could have you take something away from all this rambling, it's this: lets try to spend more time building each other up and encouraging each other and less time being critical and judge-y (if that's a word.) I have been guilty of this so many times, but I know it wasn't fair. I know others have judged me, and that wasn't fair either. 

We are all walking our own path in life, lets not mommy-bully each other. No one likes a bully. And more importantly, lets get off our high-horses and be nice or keep our traps shut. 

Spread some Love today!

Mommy